Playing the Long Game

Long term short termWhen it comes to education, you’ve gotta play the long game. Crawl before you walk; “sound out” before you read; listen before you speak.

In the classroom, a milestone may feel like you’ve moved the needle just a teeny tiny inch, but it’s just one small piece of the life-long puzzle.

As children grow, it seems the milestone are farther and farther apart. No more HUGE developmental leaps — the minutia is where the milestones live now.

I find this fact frustrating. Just like my kiddos, I want instant gratification. I want it now!Any delay to the next developmental, emotional, cognitive or social hurdle seems to send me down a mental spiral.

But I must remember patience — patience is where my milestone lives. Things often do not happen on my timeline, but I can always practice patience: for my students, for their parents, for myself.

I may not see the fruits of my labor right. this. very. second. But I bet I those fruits will be revealed in due time.

All in due time.


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If You’re Happy and You Know It…

Cinnamon Rolls.jpgFall makes me crave cinnamon — its comforting aroma wafting through my home gives me a sense that the holidays are near and Thanksgiving and Christmakkah memories are right around the corner.

A Happy Teacher is a Better Teacher

It may seem unrelated but I found myself happily unraveling a cinnamon roll while happily grading papers and planning lessons.

I wondered: Are my lessons better, filled with more fun and creativity, because I’m happier in this moment? Maybe. Just maybe.

How Can I Bottle this Feeling of Contentment?

Becoming a teacher makes me think about my teachers.

Being a person in a position of power and authority can shape a child’s memories of school and help them learn to love or loathe learning, depending on who is standing in front of them.

This is not to say that we all have an off-day or two (ummm, like last Tuesday) but I wonder if I seem more content, more self-assured standing in front of my middle-schoolers Monday-Friday from 8:00-3:08 because I am feeling more content.

Teachers: We Need to Take Better Care of Ourselves

Too often we look at educators, their arms loaded down with bags of books, papers and snacks for the staff meeting, and think of them as martyrs. I often hear, “I could never do what you do.” or “Teachers do not get paid enough, that’s for sure. I commend you.” or “I’d kill to have so much vacation. I mean you work for it, but that’s the life!”

The sentiment and encouragement are nice (and yes, the vacations are lovely), but what I really want is for teachers to take better care of themselves. We can’t pour from an empty vessel.

As summer turns into fall, projects and papers and tests (oh, my!) are coming to a head. It is the season of 12-15 hour work days, day-light savings time, IEP Meetings, and no vacation until November 11th.

It’s a time of burnout.

Instead of just trudging through, I’m going to make a promise to myself — to go to that yoga class, to watch my favorite tv show, to try to go to bed before the clock strikes midnight.

Why? Because a teacher who values self-care is a happier teacher. And learning is just more fun when the person teaching you is happier to be there.

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Being a Good Teacher is Really Hard

_MG_7334Law school taught me the importance of considering both sides — hearing both arguments. When I started my nonprofit, I attended several IEP Meetings as a Parent Advocate. As I sat on one side of the table, I realized that I knew the law but not the reality of the day-to-day implementation of this legal document.

How do these goals really play out in the classroom?

So I got myself a job as a 1:1 Aide in a Moderate/Severe elementary classroom. I was only going to stay one year, assuming that’s all the research I really needed. One year turned into three — you never stop caring for your students, wanting to see them exceed their goals, and learning about the realities of working within the system of public education.

As there is always more to learn, I now find myself at the helm of the classroom wheel — the teacher.

Being a good teacher is really hard. 

It’s only been three weeks and every day I find myself planning lessons, changing lessons on the fly, ensuring I meet state benchmarks, attending professional development meetings, going to extra trainings, instituting a behavior rewards system, revising that rewards system, figuring out which seat works best for which kid, looking for engagement and interaction from my students, making sure each child’s needs are met, cleaning out my inbox, learning how to teach curriculum, changing up the curriculum to better suit my students in the moment, preparing for IEPs, making sure my Word Wall is growing, and building relationships with my middle schoolers, their parents, and my colleagues.

In the last 15 days, I have gone through a Story Hill of emotions. I’ve doubted my choice to sign that contract, had to step out of the room to catch my breath, questioned my 5:30 am alarm clock, eaten the extra cookie and gone to bed thinking about what I could be doing better.

With all of those requirements, pulling at my time and attention, I’ve been thinking a lot about what really makes a good teacher good?

Although I’m brand new to this role, I get the sense that checking off all of the “to-do’s” don’t necessarily make a teacher a good one.

I realize that I’m just one part of my students’ lives, but I hope that at the end of this year, my first year of teaching, I can say with certainty that:

  •  I walked into that classroom everyday, turned on the lights, and made it a welcomed space for thinking and learning;
  • I had conversations and community circles that helped me learn how to tailor those lessons for that individual kid;
  • I advocated for their needs at the IEP table and thought about how to write those goals in a way that will challenge my students one step at a time;
  • I listened to what my students wanted and gave them the dignity of choosing how to get there;
  • I took care of myself so I could, in turn, care for them;
  • I recognized our differences and similarities, connecting and teaching in a culturally responsive way;
  • I helped them increase their lexile level and celebrated those tough and triumphant moments;
  • I taught my students something new that will stick with them throughout life’s journey; and
  • I was a person who they could count on.

Teaching is hard because relationships are hard.

That’s what I’m really building – meaningful relationship with each of my students who have various challenges, learning differences, needs, hopes, and dreams.

If I can be a person — as a teacher, an advocate, a mentor, a role model — that provides a brave and safe classroom space, a “Hi, how are you?” in the hallway, or a note of encouragement on a paper, I will have done my job well.

As for being a good teacher, I hope I will be able to work towards that challenge. Maybe that’s the true test, in and of itself.


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To the Kid who Doesn’t Want to go Back to School

I hear ya! I’m not a fan of early mornings or homework either.

But when it comes down to it, school is not about the bell schedules or even the grades.

‘Um, what!?’, you gasp.

 

School is a Microcosm of Our Society

Your school represents a small city, a way of learning how to navigate the bigger world around us. Social norms (standing in line, pleasantries, forming groups) are learned behaviors. The ability to challenge yourself and challenge others is a skill, one that school is helping you learn. This Social-Emotional Learning piece of becoming a well-rounded adult in our society is at the heart of your six-hour school day.

Think about public schools, charter schools, independent schools, home school, self-instruction, and private tutors — these all present a different way to learn the material. There are so many ways to learn and so many teaching styles to learn from. It’s why even the state allows parents to choose the way they want their children taught and who to teach them.

Going to School is Really about Self-Discovery

Going to School is more than just learning math and reading and then taking a test to see how well you understood those subjects (or, in reality, how well you take a test).

Going to School is about expression, social norms, working together, developing your EQ (Emotional Quotient), challenging yourself, challenging others to see a concept in a new way, inspiration, inspiring others, grit – seeing failure not as the end but, rather, as part of your success story, discovering new talents, fostering independence, and using education as a ticket to stability and security.

You can learn anything from any book. Heck, you can learn anything from YouTube!

But going to school allows you to learn about yourself.

So I get it. There are lots of not-so-great things about going to school. But I urge you to consider looking at school in this new way. It can be an adventure, a journey of self-discovery. And who knows what you may find during that quest.


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Grief & The Special Ed Parent

grief cycleI am not a parent. I am an advocate, a voice for those students and parents who need a little help along their special education journey. Together, we sort out the nitty-gritty of the IEP. But in the process of all the meetings and the goals, I sometimes forget about the most obvious: the grief of a special needs parent.

 

The Parent Hat

When I come to an IEP meeting, I am wearing my provider hat. The administrators are wearing their district hats. The teachers are wearing their special education and general education hats. The OTs, PTs, and SLPs are wearing their therapists hats. The student is wearing their most studious hat. The parent is wearing their ‘this-is-my-child-and-I-want-the-best-for-them’ hat.

An IEP is a legal document and sometimes those of us at the round-table who do not have the parent hat on, forget that this meeting of providers should be parent-driven. They can say ‘yes’ and ‘no’.

Somewhere over the course of our 40+ year national IEP history, these meetings became more formal and less focused on helping the parents of our kiddos navigate the educational system with ease. Yes, the law is very clear: all children are entitled to a Free Appropriate Public Education (FAPE) and so “the best” cannot be legally binding. The most appropriate is what we are all seeking but, oftentimes, we forget that what is the most appropriate for the student, brings to the surface the parents feelings of guilt, denial, and anger.

It’s Not About Us

We providers have a tall order too, and I do not mean to cheapen our wanting-the-best for our kiddos either. Those of us who are in this job because we truly care, know that our hearts are in the right place.

But it is not about us.

When it comes to working with parents who have special needs kids, we must remember that those heated moments are not directed at us, those tears are not for us, those statements of disbelief are not about us.

They may be our kiddos for 30 hours a week and 184 days a year, but they are their parents’ kids forever. It’s hard for me to have to come to that conclusion because I feel so invested in my students’ achievements and challenges. I probably went through my own version of that grief when I realized no matter how much I genuinely care for my students, they are, in fact, not my children.

Coming to the Table Together

It is the job of both the parent and the provider to come to the IEP table together with a collaborative approach. To do so effectively means that we providers must meet the parents where they are in the process of their grief. We must honor those moments and take that extra minute or that extra hour to actively listen and offer guidance, if wanted. No matter what hat we are wearing, our goals are the same: to help their child, and our kiddo, get the services and supports to succeed in the classroom and beyond.


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